Most people that have this feeling, do not describe it as a problem. They call it being tired. Or busy. Or slightly disconnected, though from what, they are not entirely sure. There is a gap between how full their days are and how much of what fills them, actually feels like their own - a gap that tends to widen, quietly, over years, without anyone naming it as a loss. I have watched capable, well-intentioned people move further from their own centre without recognising it as